“Fix the problem, not the blame.” (Unknown) It’s a game where nobody wins and everybody loses…the Blame Game. The more you play, the more you lose…like going to the casino. Comedian Flip Wilson found a way to win with his catch phrase: “The devil made me do it.” Who can argue with that? You’ve probably heard the Blame Game during a football game. “If the refs hadn’t missed the call…” Have you heard this song? “Blame it on the media!” ;-) Jack
FROM LBP: It’s hard to take responsibility when things go wrong. And blame has that negative connotation — bad consequence, bad person. You don’t blame someone for success. But I can attribute success to someone’s actions. What if instead of the blame game we play the attribution game? Then accept the responsibility need not always be a bad thing. And while we are at it, we can remember to judge the action not the person. I attribute that tidbit to the latest parenting literature. :) ===JACK: When I was a youngster a German immigrant family with three children joined our church. As time passed, the children grew and became "successful"...a grocer, a nurse and a doctor. One Sunday the father stood up in church and said that he "blamed" church for what his children had become. Some people were puzzled by that use of "blame," but I never forgot that father giving thanks for how the church helped his family.
FROM WALMART REV: Seems like there's plenty to throw around in Washington nowadays! I've read somewhere, "A house divided will fall!" and "All the king's horses and all the king's men couldn't put Humpty together again!?" Enjoy you day, Jack! Great hearing from you each morning ===JACK: I long for an America where bi-partisonship was more than just a word. "My way is the only way!" really disturbs me. Just think that might work in your marriage, or any marriage.
FROM GOOD DEBT JON: Baseball, apple pie, and ‘blame-today.’ For the less fortunate this is the ever deeper and wider loop of futility they choose (it is a choice). I lived in the loop for many years. Perspective saved my life. “Without the emotional shock absorber of perspective, we feel only pain—and pain that persists is suffering.” David J. Lieberman, PhD. Perhaps all roads out of Reality City lead to Despair and suffering. And the easiest thing to do is blame, it offers immediate (albeit week and temporary ) relief. I’m the way I am because of ____________ and ___________. Of course if you escape the blame cycle you need to have compassion, not everyone is ready for the solid food of reality. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. ===JACK: I heard of a man was given a spinal anesthetic to numb he is lower body for surgery. By mistake his upper body was "put to sleep" and the operation continued on the lower body. He could feel, but not communicate his pain. Some people are unable to express their pain to others in words that can be understood.
FROM GOPHER LYNN: I like this one.===JACK: Sometimes you have to live it to understand it.:
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